Taylor Swift may have made a career out of singing about heartbreak and relationships gone wrong, but she definitely doesn’t have any regrets. What she does have — in spades, apparently — is wisdom to share.
“If I could go back and give myself any advice, I wouldn’t [do it] because I’ve had such incredible adventures,” she tells Glamour magazine on the set of her shoot for the March cover. That’s hard to deny — the pop star has been romantically linked to Joe Jonas, Jake Gyllenhaal, John Mayer, Taylor Lautner, Conor Kennedy and Harry Styles. (To name a few.)
But that doesn’t mean that nobody benefits from Swift’s life experience; she just doles out her tips to those who need it more. “I have a lot of friends who are 16, 17 and 18 and I do definitely give them the advice.”
Swift shares some of that dating advice with Glamour, divulging one of her tried and true tricks to editor Cindi Leive:
CL: Here’s something our readers ask about constantly: When you feel like a guy you’re dating has the upper hand, how do you change the game?
CL: What’s the freeze-out?
TS: You don’t respond to any of his texts or calls until he does something desperate [like] shows up. Or he calls and leaves a voice mail. Something that makes it very clear to you that he’s interested.
CL: Have you employed the freeze-out?
TS: [Nods. Pauses.] I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it’s a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table.
Swift also notes that keeping quiet during a fight is essential. “Never yell,” she says. “Silence speaks so much louder than screaming tantrums.”
Maybe, but does it speak louder than hit single after hit single?