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Game of Thrones Watch: Meet the Parents

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Before you read this post, make sure the kids aren’t getting up to any mischief, get a plate of horse jerky, then settle in to watch last night’s episode of Game of Thrones:

The pilot episode of Game of Thrones set up a lot of background, characters and situations, but it also organized itself around three core stories in which characters—Ned, Jon and Daenerys—made life-changing choices (or in Dany’s case, had the choice made for her). Ned agreed to become the Hand of the King; Jon followed through on his decision to join the Night’s Watch on the Wall; and Dany was married off to Khal Drogo. In “The Kingsroad,” each sets off on a journey, along a long road. And each finds hims or herself confronting what the hell he or she has gotten into.

The dangers of the choice Ned made were foreshadowed and apparent to him: he was not ignorant that Robert’s in-laws, the Lannisters, are a shady and dangerous family. But it’s on the Kingsroad that he confronts the extent to which his new companions (and maybe future in-laws) are not simply untrustworthy but petty, dishonest and needlessly cruel.

Those worst traits seem embodied together in crown prince Joffrey, who demonstrates what a bad seed he is in a compellingly unsettling scene, in which his oily wooing of Sansa become the casual torture of the butcher’s boy (practicing sword-sparring with Arya by the river), which in turn becomes a murderous rage (“I’ll gut you, you little cunt!”) when first Arya, then Arya’s direwolf, strike back against him, something he’s unused to. The way the situation deteriorates is expertly, excruciatingly handled, and in a few strokes characterizes Joffrey, Sansa and Arya (and sketches the dynamics between the two sisters).

If the river-fight scene was tough to take, however, in a way the bloodless “trial” before Cersei and Robert was even more awful, revealing and excellent. The setup mainly confirms the worst we’ve suspected of Joffrey and Cersei (particularly in her demand that Sansa’s direwolf, Lady, be sacrificed though innocent). But the scene is even more telling about Robert, caught between his friend and his obligations to wife and children. You suspect, watching the scene, that Robert knows Joffrey is lying, but he reacts with irritation and disgust at being put on the spot. (He lets his contempt for Joffrey slip out: “You let that little girl disarm you?”)

But ultimately, Robert wants to be shut of the he-said-she-said, and sentencing Lady is the easiest way to do it. Sean Bean shows Ned’s horror at the decision, not, I suspect, just because it means killing his daughter’s pet (and symbolically killing one of his own, the direwolf being his house’s symbol). He also, it seems, is coming to recognize the situation he’s stepped into as Hand: the Lannisters are cunning and seemingly inhuman, and while Robert may be his friend, he is also, in some deep moral way, weak. (A weakness also shown by his eagerness to order assassination on Daenerys overseas.)

It is a clash of the straightforward ways of the Stark clan and the hard-to-navigate ways of the Baratheon-Lannisters. The Starks believe in carrying out their own executions when needed; the royal family have a retinue of employees to distance themselves from that deed, from the horrific, mute King’s Justice to the Hound, who—horrifically—jests about running the butcher’s boy down: “He ran. But not very fast.” And in the end, a direwolf dies.

The root of the fight, of course, is Arya’s sword, a parting gift from Jon, the bastard who is leaving because he has no prospects with no legitimate inheritance. In “The Kingsroad,” he discovers the other sorts of men who are seeking a new life on The Wall: rapists and sundry other criminals. He’s sharing the road, for a short time, with Tyrion, who makes little secret of his scorn for The Night’s Watch, swearing their lives to guard against “snarks and grumkins.” But he also offers Jon some advice, from another noble’s son with few conventional prospects: “I must do my part for the honor of my house, wouldn’t you agree? But how? Well, my brother has a sword and I have my mind, and a mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone.”

Dany, meanwhile, is suffering the hardships of the trail with the Dothraki, and confronting the reality of what her brother has sold her into. This storyline, as I suspected, was the most controversial last week, and at least some of that centered on Dany and Drogo’s wedding night. I’ve said I won’t dwell too much on the comparing the books and the series, but this is one place where it’s relevant: in the books, Dany and Drogo’s first night starts trepidatious but turns much more consensual.

I don’t know why the producers changed this among all details, but I have a guess. Yes, the wedding-night rape was hard to take, but this sort of arranged-marriage was essentially a rape bargain. To have Drogo immediately prove a caring lover for Dany would have been easier on the audience’s sensibilities, but it might have rung more false and offensive in its way—as if we were being shown that the arranged pairing was not so bad after all.

Instead, Dany is in the situation of being both a queen and chattel. She can’t erase the deal, but she can try to gain control and agency in the situation—in the ways that are realistically available to her. Her sexual education with her handmaiden has been criticized by some reviewers for Dany’s wanting to “please” the man who had taken her against her will. I found the scene a bit cheesy and soft-core porny, but I read the essential dynamic differently: Dany is not responding to the idea of pleasing Drogo for its own sake, but to her former-prostitute handmaid’s stories of the power of sex in a relationship. She’s asking not just how to pleasure Drogo but how to be the proactive, commanding one–the khalessi–in the tent. The sex scene, then, is only secondarily about exciting Drogo by offering him something besides “the Dothraki way”; it has everything to do with Dany looking for a way, literally, to be on top.

One choice, at least, goes well, in a relative sense: Catelyn, having chosen to stay behind to watch over Bran—who survived his fall, but evidently paralyzed—is able to fight off his would-be murderer. It’s also a complication, and an escalation—since it does not take much prodding for her to connect the deed to the Lannisters—but Bran wakes. And, at least in this go-round, the direwolf wins.

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  • charlieromeobravo

    An excellent episode.

    One comment about the wedding night. My wife and I were also taken aback by the wedding night having read the books, Last night I think I understand the change. IMO, what we saw last night was the little girl Dany starting to learn how to be less of a piece of property and learn how to function, get what she wants in the world they live in.

    It’s been tough just watching the show and not doing a mental A B comparison to the books but that little change in the wedding night and Dany’s pleasure lessons made me realize that I have to stop doing that and watch the show for what it is. It’s not the book but it’s proving itself to be very good in its own right.

  • chriskw

    People complained about the wedding night scene. But it wasn’t completely inaccurate. Because Dany did cry and didn’t look at Drogo the first few times they had sex. I’m certain that was explained in the book.

    Does anyone find it strange how upset people are that Lady got killed? There are people who are threatening to stop watching the show.

    And yet, they don’t really mind that the Hound killed the butcher’s boy or that Bran was thrown from a tower.

    This has always been one of my pop culture pet peeves. That people care more about animals than humans? Then again, I see it happen in real life too. Which pisses me off more.

  • charlieromeobravo

    “I’m certain that was explained in the book.”

    The way it played out in the book was subtly but significantly different than the TV version. A few omitted details make a world of difference.

    Like I said, we were surprised by the TV scene but I’m not outraged. Depending on where the character goes and the relationship that develops between her and Drogo, I can see that it may have been entirely appropriate.

  • http://twitter.com/poniewozik James Poniewozik

    The book made the first night more gentle/consensual. But it also said that Drogo would have sex, dominatingly, with the saddlesore Dany whether she wanted to or not, which she came to dread before learning to assert herself in the bedroom (and thus in the relationship). This nuance would have been lost in a small-screen version, which has to tell a story in quicker strokes, if it depicted a happier wedding night. Which to me is another reason why it’s only so useful to compare anything with the book: a TV show has to work as a TV show, without reference to the source material, and that will necessitate changes.

  • William H. Brewer

    I’m with you on the killing-animals-vs.-killing-humans thing. Very weird. I find it heartbreaking when Ned has to kill Lady, but primarily because of its impact on *Sansa*–and killing Mycah is far, far worse.

  • The Hoobie

    Even though Martin’s a lot grittier/more historically realistic, than, say, Tolkein, in his depiction of a medieval-like world, it’s still his fictional world, to change and shape as he likes, and I love what he does to upend some of the reader’s expectations of the genre in just the 170 pages I’ve read of GoT so far.

    So although I understand that sometimes what works in a book won’t work onscreen and that narrative and character traits have to be compressed for the show, I’m really still kind of sad that they changed the wedding night scene. (I’m also not as sure that the show couldn’t have found some way to reflect more of the nuances in Dany and Drogo’s relationship.) The wedding night scene did so much—it was a lovely surprise that helped let me know I wasn’t in for the kind of male-driven fantasy novel where women (and children) are mere victims and/or ethereal angel figures and showed that there could be moments of surprising grace and positivity in the middle of all the grittiness.

    And functionally, the wedding night in the book was also a big signal that the Dothraki and their Khal are not the straight-up barbarians you might otherwise guess they are.

    (I was also a little surprised by another diversion from the book. In the book, before he’s defenestrated, Bran hears the Lannister twins talk about past, present, and future intrigue and misdeeds before they start Doing It. The Lannisters, and the audience, don’t know how much of their talk Bran heard, how much he understood, and how much he might remember and repeat. There was something cool and powerful about the idea that what Bran heard—not just what he saw—might bubble up and have consequences.)

    I’m starting to guess, though, that my trying to read the book for the first time more-or-less simultaneously with the show is a fool’s errand that I should abandon (as of last night’s episode, I’m still a little bit ahead in my reading of most of the storylines in the show but have started to fall behind on a few).

    In a minor note, all during the first episode I kept getting distracted by wondering who it is that Nikolaj Coster-Waldau reminds me of. It finally hit me last night: he’s a hunkier Denis Leary! Aarrgh. I hate it when I realize things like that! It’ll now take a couple episodes before the force of that realization wears off and I can watch the show without half-expecting Jaime to, say, chastise Tyrion for drinking all the wine in Westeros (“We’ll have to wait until you die and distill your ashes!”). Sigh.

  • The Hoobie

    Oh, I really didn’t mean to open a can of Bellafante-esque sweeping gender/genre generalization worms (worms I couldn’t begin to corral or defend) in my sentence about “…the kind of male-driven fantasy novel….” It’s just… that scene, as it is in the book, strikes me as really important in the set-up of that world—it shows so well what makes GoT fresh, surprising, and script-flipping—and I’m dismayed that they couldn’t find a way to make the scene work in the show, reverting instead to a more conventional script (complete with a lazy HBO triad of rape, boobies, and girl-on-girl action).

  • shootthecritic

    Speaking as someone who comes fresh to Game of Thrones (having read none of the books), I highly enjoyed this episode, as well as the last.
    I was also very taken by the river-scene and the “trial” that ensued. The power play between the children and the adults was very cleverly laid out, as was the way hierarchies work in this fantasy land (which is not so different from real life).
    As for Dany — I liked that she wasn’t just an innocent bystander to the political marriage her brother set up. Like you said, she’s trying to be proactive. BUT I also think she’s trying to find pleasure for herself in a situation that otherwise gives her little to enjoy. She gets the pleasure, yes, in “being on top,” but also in sex that she feels equally involved in and by which she can feel satisfied. Her new husband, after all, isn’t some unattractive and out of shape king — he’s a young, healthy, and strong man. Why not find a way to make that work?
    The involvement of the direwolves adds a nice touch of the supernatural and other-worldly. It was sad to see Lady put down, but that sequence is cross-cut with the sparing of a human Stark, the child who probably should have been killed by that long fall. You kill one representative of the “North” (the Starks’ animal, the direwolf) to overshadow the fact that your son is a petty and weak little prince, but another comes back to life who has the power to reveal a much worse secret.
    I’m gladly getting into this show….
    - Shoot the Critic, http://shootthecritic.com

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